Has your self worth been tied to your career, and security to money?

A question not typically asked or understood, because of how vulnerable it is to even consider.

I wouldn’t have questioned it myself until I started digging deep and realizing how much of mine was.

Here’s what I learned about wealth and career when I decided to step away from my professional titles and the identity of being a “successful corporate woman.”

I’ve been in Finance for over two decades. I grew up in the corporate world and very much adopted the mentality of excelling, performing, pushing myself and exceeding. I created this linear illusion of success that validated my power and worth. As long as I was climbing the corporate ladder I felt worthy. As long as I had money in my bank with some zeros behind it I felt like I was somebody. As long as I had initials behind my name and a position of power I felt strong and confident.

I tied my worth entirely to my career. It became my identity. The money in my accounts was a form of security, albeit a false one, because no matter how much I had I never felt secure. I was always operating from lack. I had inadvertently built my worth outside of myself, and it was conditional on how much I achieved.

It took intentional healing and slowing down to confront that truth. It wasn’t pretty. I chose to deconstruct who I had built myself to be. I let go of titles and other people’s definitions of who I was, along with beliefs and behaviours that were no longer serving me.

This is part of being human. When we start asking the hard questions we begin to heal. We stop making excuses and start cultivating our own inner richness, building a life from the inside out, not outside in. We stop trying to fit someone else’s definition of success and give ourselves permission to evolve into our next version of self.

Here’s what I know after doing this work on myself and sitting with hundreds of women doing the same: real wealth was never in the account balance. It was never in the title. It was never in the initials after your name. It was always in the relationship you have with yourself, your values, your peace, your sense of enough.

That’s the wealth that doesn’t disappear when the market drops. That’s the wealth nobody can take from you.. 

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Do you want to feel more empowered with your finances and learn to live an abundant life aligned to your inner richness — not reliant on your bank account? If this resonated, I’d love to connect.

We all need teammates. I’d like to be yours.